Relate Bookshop
The selection of titles in this section ranges from self-help books to advice for the professional. Subjects include Life Skills, Health, and Personal Development. Titles are listed alphabetically.
Books for couples/single people
Relate Guides (Created by Relate)
After the Affair
Julia Cole
Finding out your partner has had an affair can feel like the ultimate betrayal and learning to trust again is difficult and painful. "After the Affair" takes a frank look at the reasons why people have affairs and the devastating effects they may have - this edition covers how the internet has grown hugely; websites such as Facebook have mushroomed; and mobile phones have become ubiquitous.
£9.99
Before you say ‘I Do’ – How to be happily married for ever! (Relate guide)
Elizabeth Martyn
Are you thinking about marriage, but afraid of ending up in the divorce statistics? Are you wondering if you're ready and able to make a public, lifelong commitment? "Before You Say 'I Do'" recognises that marriage takes courage, energy and self-knowledge, and leads you through a series of key questions about your relationship to help you discover if you have what it takes to make your marriage a lifelong success...
£7.49
Better Relationships – Practical ways to make your love last (Relate guide)
Sarah Litvinoff
This guide offers practical exercises and guidelines to increase mutual understanding amongst married couples, tackling issues of confrontation and commitment, amongst others.
£6.74
Loving Yourself, Loving Another: The Importance of Self-esteem for Successful Relationships (Relate Guides)
Julia Cole
This text reveals how a lack of self-esteem can profoundly affect an individual's close relationships. Comprising exercises, advice, and self-awareness puzzles, this guide is designed to help the reader improve their emotional well-being.
£6.69
Relate Guide to Finding Love
Barbara Broomfield
Why are you looking for love right now? What kind of relationship do you want? How will you know when you've found 'The One'? "The Relate Guide to Finding Love" will answer all these questions, and more.
£9.99
Starting Again – How to learn from the past for a better future (Relate guide)
Sarah Litvinoff
A guide to looking to a positive future after the grief of a failed relationship. Through self-assessment questionnaires, tasks and discussion points, the author helps the reader to reach a greater understanding of him- or herself and to build a new social life.
£5.99
Staying Together – From crisis to deeper commitment (Relate guide)
Susan Quilliam
This guide offers advice on how to learn to come to terms with a failing relationship, assess whether it is worth saving, and how to overcome relationship difficulties.
£6.74
Stop Arguing: Start Talking – The 10 point plan for couples in conflict (Relate guide)
Susan Quilliam
Aims to help couples break free of old patterns of behaviour and avoid using words as weapons when the going gets tough. Encourages upfront discussion rather than resorting to nagging, and to bring discussion rather than confrontation back into your relationship.
£5.99
Other Recommended Publishers
Adult Attachment and Couple Psychotherapy: The “Secure Base” in Practice and Research
Christopher Clulow
Brings research and practice perspectives to bear on the adult couple relationship, and provides a framework for assessing and working with secure and insecure attachment.
£18.99
Beyond Grief: Guide for Recovering from the Death of a Loved One
Carol Staudacher
It is the most natural thing in the world to grieve for someone who has died, but people experience grief in different ways. With its warm, practical approach this book will provide the help that is often needed to come through. From her own experience and her work as a grief therapist, Carol Staudacher can help the grieving understand and come to terms with their feelings. They may go through stages of disbelief, anger, guilt, fear, despair and confusion and they need to understand that there is nothing shameful in any of these and that these emotions can be channelled into positive healing. Each type of loss brings its particular grief and in each case the author discusses, frankly and sympathetically, all aspects of the grieving process, even those that people rarely discuss in public. She encourages the reader to talk and write about their bereavement and shows how friends and family can help each other, as well as giving advice on the practical legal and financial matters that may srise. This is a book that will fill a huge gap, it brings comfort and hope at a time when it is most needed. Looking at grief in the raw Carol Staudacher helps the bereaved person to face life with renewed strength and optimism.
£8.99
Breaking the Bonds: Understanding Depression, Finding Freedom
Dorothy Rowe
As well as discussing the meaning of depression, examining why it is hard to effect change, and describing the journey towards freedom from depression, the author also looks at other interpretations of depression, and at the way drugs are often wrongfully used. By the author of "Successful Self".
£7.49
Coping Successfully with Panic Attacks
Shirley Trickett
Panic attacks happen when the body's emergency button is being pressed continuously. Breathlessness, chest pains, sweating, shaking, dizziness and fainting are all among the symptoms, and the experience can be terrifying. Fluctuating blood-sugar levels, anxiety and exhausted nerves affecting muscle tension and breathing can all cause panic attacks. This book explains how to stop pressing the panic button. Shirley Trickett shows how to understand your inner self, and overcome panic attacks with a balanced approach to meet your physical and emotional needs.
£5.99
Coping with Anxiety & Depression
Shirley Trickett
This is an updated self-help guide for anyone who suffers from depression and anxiety. It explains how and why these conditions occur, suggesting positive ways of coping successfully. It includes case histories, and describes the different drug and non-drug treatments available. A list of additional books and tapes is also included.
£5.99
Coping with Chronic Fatigue
Trudie Chalder
A self-help book for everyone who feels exhausted all the time including sufferers of Myalgic Encephalomyelitis (ME). This book encourages chronic fatigue sufferers to assess their own level of fatigue, and offers advice on dealing with exhaustion and incorporating these changes into everyday life. There are chapters on understanding the fatigue problem, diet, drugs, improving sleeping patterns and how to plan exercise and resting routines.
£5.99
Cruising Through the Menopause: Managing the Menopause Successfully Without HRT
Maryon Stewart
Research confirms that the menopause can be negotiated without recourse to HRT and with confidence that heart disease and osteoporosis will be kept at bay. This book shows the pros and cons of HRT and offers a program of diet and exercise which can be used to tackle the menopause.
£7.14
Depression (Overcoming Common Problems)
Paul A. Hauck
This is a book for everyone who gets depressed and for those who have to live or work with people who suffer from depression. The author pinpoints three main roots of psychologically caused depression - self-blame (harsh criticism of one's own behaviour which leads to excessive guilt); self-pity (feeling sorry for oneself when the world's treatment is unfair); and "other-pity" (associating too strongly with the under-dog in other people). Case histories from the author's own practice illustrate these points, showing that many people have been taught to be neurotic and can be trained not to be.
£5.99
Depression: The Way Out of Your Prison
Dorothy Rowe
Depression: The Way Out of Your Prison gives us a way of understanding our depression which matches our experience and which enables us to take charge of our life and change it.
£8.49
Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway
Susan Jeffers
Internationally renowned author, Susan Jeffers, has helped millions of people around the globe to overcome their fears and heal the pain in their lives. Such fears may include: Public speaking; Asserting yourself; Making decisions; Intimacy; Changing jobs; Being alone; Ageing; Driving; Losing a loved one; Ending a relationship. But whatever your anxieties, Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway will give you the insight and tools to vastly improve your ability to handle any given situation. You will learn to live your life the way you want - so you can move from a place of pain, paralysis and depression to one of power, energy and enthusiasm. This inspiring modern classic has helped thousands turn their anger into love - and their indecision into action - with Susan Jeffers' simple but profound advice to 'feel the fear and do it anyway'.
£2.49
Hold Your Head up High
Albert Ellis
Do you worry about what people think of you? Do you sometimes feel everyone else is more confident and more successful than you are? Do you wish you could forget about judging yourself all the time and get on with your life? Many people suffer from low self-esteem and find it difficult to believe in themselves - to believe they deserve respect and consideration. But people can change, and learn to accept themselves as they are, without relying on other people's opinions. Readers should be able to overcome the feelings of failure, embarrassment and anxiety that can hold them back. This book aims to help you to hold your head up high, be calm, confident and assertive, whatever happens to you.
£5.99
How to be your own best friend
Paul A. Hauck
Paul Hauck is the author of "How to Love and Be Loved" and "How to Stand Up for Yourself". People can feel guilty about self-interest, but this book shows that self-neglect can hold you back in many ways and prevent you from getting the most out of life. The book offers practical advice about how to assess your goals and abilities positively, and handle opposition and frustration calmly.
£5.99
How to Start a Conversation and Make Friends
Don Gabor
Do you become tongue-tied and timid in company? Are you shy at parties? Do you find it hard to speak up at meetings? How can you make new friends? This entertaining and easy-to-read book shows you how to master the art of conversation. The author tells you how to approach other people, the right questions to ask, how to keep a conversation going and how much you should reveal about yourself. His advice will help you to create friendships and make you more self-assured and relaxed with other people.
£5.99
How to Stay Together Forever: How to Make your Relationship Work and Keep it Working!
Julia Cole
Statistics tell the truth with shocking clarity: four out of ten marriages in the UK end in divorce. Even sadder is that one in ten divorced men and women wish they had stayed together. Drawing on her experience as a therapist and as a writer on all aspects of sex and relationship problems, Julia Cole looks at the difficulties that commonly beset couples and offers practical ideas for overcoming them. Among the topics she tackles are: Improving communication; Handling arguments; Finding time for each other outside work and family commitments; Sharing feelings, hopes and dreams; Making time for affection as well as sex; With quizzes and checklists to encourage reader involvement, this book's friendly, accessible style could well be the answer to many people's relationship difficulties.
£5.99
How to Stop Worrying
Frank Tallis
A guide to making worry work for you, helping you to avoid stress and anxiety. The author sets out to teach how to understand fear and face the possibilities of life calmly.
£7.19
It’s My Life Now: Starting Over After an Abusive Relationship or Domestic Violence
Meg Kennedy Dugan
It’s My Life Now offers readers the practical guidance, emotional reassurance, and psychological awareness that survivors of relationship abuse and domestic violence need to heal and reclaim their lives after leaving their abusers.
£12.50
Life Strategies: The No-nonsense Approach to Turning Your Life Around
Phillip C. McGraw
Take a good hard look at your life. Are there things you are unhappy with? Your life is your responsiblity; the choices you made yesterday brought about the life you have today. If you don't like what you have, then get ready to act and move on. Life Strategies gives powerful, straightforward advice on shaping your life and tells you how to make dramatic changes. Whether it's a bad relationship, a dead-end career, or a harmful habit, Dr McGraw helps you wake up and get out of your rut. It is never too late to take charge of, and be responsible for, your life.
£5.24
Living with Grief
Tony Lake
This self-help guide concentrates on grief after bereavement and describes five tasks to be worked through in order to come to terms with grief, and in wider terms value life more. The five tasks come under two headings - three acceptance tasks and two resistance tasks. The acceptance tasks are: accept the full reality of what has happened; accept the need for an increased committment to life; and accept the need for help. The resistance tasks are: resist isolation; and resist dependence. Specific help is also included for those suffering from grief after sudden loss, suicide, or the death of a child or a parent. The book also offers help for those who know they are dying, both adults and children.
£5.99
Lovers’ Wisdom
Judy Ashberg
Lovers' Wisdom is the perfect gift book for everyone who wants to be in a successful relationship or is already in a relationship and would like it to be even better. It includes over 150 inspirational ideas and insights into every aspect of the way you communicate with one another. This delightful gift book offers wise advice and guidance to help you have a loving partnership. It includes thought-provoking ideas on meeting the right person for you, maintaining love and passion over many years and resolving conflict. Lovers' Wisdom is the perfect book for everyone who would like to gain more intimacy and understanding in their relationships.
£6.29
Loving Him Without Losing You
Beverly Engel
Do you frequently find yourself putting your lover′s needs ahead of your own? Do you tend to lose yourself in your romantic relationships? Have you ever neglected your career, your friends, or even your health while in the midst of a love affair? Now, in this landmark book, Beverly Engel examines the intricate reasons why so many women submerge themselves in their relationships with men–and offers a straightforward, empowering program that you can use to free yourself from the powerful grip of this all–too–common problem and rediscover yourself as a Woman of Substance.
£6.49
Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus
John Gray
This guide to successful communication between the sexes has already helped many millions of readers from across the globe understand why members of the opposite sex behave the way they do. This new edition contains all the text of the original, including: what makes members of the opposite sex tick; how to understand their verbal and non-verbal language; how to motivate the opposite sex and get what you want; how to avoid arguments and promote fruitful communication; how to score points with the opposite sex and impress your partner; the real emotional needs of the opposite sex and the behaviours associated with these needs; and how to keep love alive and stay together long term. This book should help you reach a point of harmony and understanding where both sexes can live, work and love together.
£5.08
Overcoming Anxiety
Windy Dryden
Anxiety is a problem that affects the whole of people's lives and can prove quite debilitating. Thousands of people suffer from anxiety and would like to overcome it. Using the popular Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy approach, Windy Dryden shows how this can be done.
£5.99
Overcoming Depression
Paul Gilbert
A self-help guide using Cognitive Behavioral Techniques, this book is full of step-by-step suggestions, case examples and practical ideas for gaining control over depression and low mood; it is an indispensable guide for those affected, their friends and families, psychologists and those working in the medical profession.
£6.99
Overcoming Relationship Problems: A Self-Help Guide Using Cognitive Behavioral Techniques
Michael Crowe
Contains advice on how to sustain a long term relationship, and how to improve communication with your partner and family.
£6.49
Passage To Power: Natural Menopause Revolution
Leslie Kenton
Designed to help women who fear the menopause or who are suffering from menopausal troubles, this text tackles the science of menopause and scrutinizes the practices commonly associated with. Leslie Kenton questions the benefits of HRT, and examines the powers of natural progesterone.
£7.14
Relationship Rescue: Repair Your Relationship Today
Phillip C. McGraw
"Life Strategies", published to coincide with the start of Phillip McGraw's role on Oprah's "Change Your Life TV", gave powerful, straightforward advice on shaping your life and then making dramatic changes. In "Relationship Rescue" McGraw applies this expertise to relationships, explaining how to repair and maintain them using his unique 7-step relationship rescue plan. He can help you to diagnose what is wrong in a relationship, take personal responsibility, escape wrong thinking, embrace relationship truths, learn the formula for success, renegotiate a relationship and learn to live with love and harmony.
£5.19
Self Help for Your Nerves
Claire Weekes
Essential guide for everything you need to know to keep relaxed through every day life Repackage of the phenomenally successful guide to dealing with nervous illness -- Self Help for Your Nerves. This guide offers the most comprehensive insight and advice into coping with nervous stress. Sufferers of nervous illness regard Self Help for Your Nerves as their bible -- many believe that if they had found it earlier they would have been saved years of unnecessary suffering. Dr Claire Weekes looks at: How the Nervous System Works What is Nervous Illness Common factors in the development of nervous illness Recurring Nervous Attacks Plus important chapters on depression, sorrow, guilt and disgrace, obsessions, sleeplessness, confidence, loneliness and agoraphobia. The book also shows the Dr Claire Weekes method, a practical programme on learning to take your place among people without fear.
£5.49
Self-esteem Bible: Build your confidence Day by Day
Gael Lindenfield
Learn the secrets of self-esteem with 365 tips from the UK's number one confidence expert Gael Lindenfield. Dip into this comprehensive self-help handbook as and when you need it or use it as a personal development plan. Includes advice on social life, work issues, relationships and much more. Poor self-esteem can sabotage relationships and careers, cause self-destructive behaviour and hold us back from achieving our true potential. In this comprehensive guide, self-esteem expert Gael Lindenfield gives you all the advice you need for building confidence in yourself and your abilities. Designed to be dipped into as and when you need a confidence-boost, or followed as a personal development programme, this is a highly practical self-help handbook that will give you concrete results. Includes sections on work, social life, relationships, health and personal development, so you will regain self-esteem by making new friends, getting over past hurts, boosting assertiveness, learning how to deal with difficult people and situations, think positively and get motivated to achieve your dreams. With tips for both the short- and long-term, this book provides ways to boost your self-esteem immediately -- and then reveals how to stay self-confident for life!
£6.49
Surviving Grief and Learning to Live Again
Catherine M. Sanders
An insightful, compassionate account of the grieving process that helps us through the pain and isolation experienced with the loss of a loved one.. We′re never really prepared for the loss of someone we love. Thrown into a state of emotional chaos we experience rage, guilt, anxiety, and intense sadness all at once. It′s the oldest story in the world, we tell ourselves –– millions of people have had to cope with this before –– and yet, we always believe that what we are experiencing is unique to us. We feel isolated in our anguish and often ashamed of what we are feeling. A profoundly compassionate and insightful book, Surviving Grief. & Learning to Live Again offers you the support and understanding you need to get you through this difficult time. Written by Dr. Catherine Sanders, a therapist and researcher specializing in bereavement issues and one who has lived through the loss of close family members, it helps you to see that what you are feeling is part of a natural process of readjustment and renewal. According to Dr. Sanders, grieving, like any other natural regenerative process, must be allowed to run its proper course if we are ever to regain our equilibrium and continue on with our lives. To help us better understand the process, she describes the five universal phases of grief: Shock, Awareness of Loss, Conservation and The Need to Withdraw, Healing, and Renewal, and guides us through each. Drawing directly from her own experiences and those of her clients and her research studies, she delves deeply and compassionately into the different experiences of grief, and talks about what it means to lose a mate, a parent, or a child. And she discusses the factors that can have an influence on the grieving process, such as age, gender, and the circumstances surrounding the loved one′s death.
£16.99
Surviving your Partner: How to live with the Death of the Person closest to You
Sylvia Murphy
This book gives hope and empowerment to those who have been bereaved of their life partner.
£5.39
The Big Book of Us: The Workbook that will change your relationships
Nina Grunfeld
Are you curious about your relationship? What makes it work? Are you experiencing a rough patch? Can you get out of it? Have you met the right person? Let's face it. Everyone could talk till the cows come home about their relationship, and what's wrong with it, or him, or her. But what do we ever do about it - really do about it - until it's too late? This book offers you an opportunity to put your relationship through a full MOT. Structured along the same lines as Nina's very popular "Big Book of Me", with quizzes, worksheets and quotes, it is an invaluable tool both for those looking to form a new relationship, and those who want to revitalise the one they've got. Use it to coach yourself (and your other half) to a better, more mutually fulfilling partnership - to discover who you are, who they are and where your relationship could go. Don't let this relationship go the way of the others.
£8.44
The Bloke’s Guide to Pregnancy
Jon Smith
This book takes a 'warts and all' sensible yet humorous look at the many stages of pregnancy. It explores the changes, physical and emotional, that any man can expect to see in his partner and in their relationship over the coming months. Becoming pregnant involved two people. The rearing of a child will involve two people; there is every reason that your partner's pregnancy should also involve the two of you, together. For any man that has been put off reading pregnancy books because he doesn't feel he was the intended audience or that something about the tone of these books was alien to him, yet he still has questions that need answers; then The Blokes' Guide to: Pregnancy is the book he's been looking for. As a father himself, Jon Smith realized, when his partner Lisa became pregnant that there was nothing out there that he could relate to. The Bloke's Guide to Pregnancy is the result. Jon takes a comical yet informed look at the ups and downs of life as a father to be. Guaranteed to educate you while making you laugh out loud!
£5.39
The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Pattern of Intimate Relationships
Harriet Goldhor Lerner
For many women anger is a destructive force which perpetuates all the harmful dynamics of intimate relationships. In this text feminist psychotherapist, Harriet G. Lerner shows how all women regardless of age, background or experience, can turn anger into a constructive force. Focusing largely on the family, the book provides the reader with the insights and practical skills to stop behaving in the old predictable ways and to begin to use anger to establish a more positive approach to significant relationships.
£6.69
The Dance of Intimacy: A Woman’s Guide to Courageous Acts of Change in Key Relationships
Harriet Goldhor Lerner
This guide outlines the steps women, as well as men, can take to strengthen good relationships and heal difficult ones. It is also available on two 90-minute audio-cassettes from HarperAudio.
£6.49
The Good Stress Guide
Mary Hartley
A positive book on a health issue that is increasingly prevalent in the 1990s. Some stress is good for you providing you handle it in the correct way. Using the exercises and charts in this workbook, readers can build up a picture of the stress in their lives and how they handle it. The exercises will reveal the roots of each individual's response to stress and where their own strengths and weaknesses lie. The book explains how to react postively to stressful situations. It is in the format of a workbook and deals with all types of stress - both in professional and personal life. Detailed case studies demonstrating how the techniques work are also featured.
£6.29
Who’s Afraid of Virginia Woolf?
Edward Albee
Middle-aged history professor George, and his wife Martha, are joined by another college couple. The result is an all-night drinking session that erupts into a nightmare of revelations.
£5.49
Why Marriages Succeed or Fail
John M. Gottman
Psychologist and top marriage guru John Gottman has spent twenty years studying what makes a marriage last - now you can use his tested methods to evaluate, strengthen and maintain your long-term relationship. This ground-breaking book will enable you to see where your strengths and weaknesses lie, what specific actions you can take to improve your marriage and how to avoid the damaging patterns that can lead to divorce. It includes: * Practical exercises and techniques that will allow you to understand and make the most of your relationship * Ways to recognise and overcome the attitudes that doom a marriage * Questionnaires that will help you evaluate your relationship * Case studies and anecdotes from real life throughout
£5.99
Women Who Love Too Much
Robin Norwood
s having 'somebody to love' the most important thing in your life? Do you constantly believe that with 'the right man' you would no longer feel depressed or lonely? Are you bored with 'nice guys' who are open, honest and dependable? If being in love means being in pain, this book was written for you. Therapist Robin Norwood describes loving too much as a pattern of thoughts and behavior, which certain women develop as a response to problems from childhood. Many women find themselves repeatedly drawn into unhappy and destructive relationships with men. They then struggle to make these doomed relationships work. This bestselling book takes a hard look at how powerfully addictive these unhealthy relationships are - but also gives a very specific program for recovery from the disease of loving too much.