These guides by respected authors Julia Cole, Paula Hall, Suzie Hayman, Sarah Litvinoff, Elisabeth Martyn and Susan Quilliam provide you with valuable insights, practical exercises and expert advice for a variety of life situations, whether you are single or in a relationship, whether you are a parent or not. Titles are listed alphabetically.
Relate Guides (Created by Relate)
After the Affair
Finding out your partner has had an affair can feel like the ultimate betrayal and learning to trust again is difficult and painful. "After the Affair" takes a frank look at the reasons why people have affairs and the devastating effects they may have - this edition covers how the internet has grown hugely; websites such as Facebook have mushroomed; and mobile phones have become ubiquitous.
Babyshock!– Your relationship survival guide
Babyshock! is for any parents who have forgotten what it's like to be a couple because their children have taken over their lives. The experiences of pregnancy, childbirth and caring for children are wonderful, but also put a great deal of pressure on a relationship...
Before you say ‘I Do’ – How to be happily married for ever! (Relate guide)
Are you thinking about marriage, but afraid of ending up in the divorce statistics? Are you wondering if you're ready and able to make a public, lifelong commitment? "Before You Say 'I Do'" recognises that marriage takes courage, energy and self-knowledge, and leads you through a series of key questions about your relationship to help you discover if you have what it takes to make your marriage a lifelong success...
Better Relationships – Practical ways to make your love last (Relate guide)
This guide offers practical exercises and guidelines to increase mutual understanding amongst married couples, tackling issues of confrontation and commitment, amongst others.
The 3 of us
The 3 of us is a new service for both first time mums and dads with a child up to 24 months. It’s a natural next step to antenatal classes to help couples explore their feelings with a qualified relationship adviser or through an interactive online session
Help your Children Cope with Your Divorce – How to lessen the pain of divorce for your children (Relate Guide)
Children of all ages can be devastated by the news that their parents' relationship has broken down. Even those who have been living in a highly conflictual situation are often shocked by the final decision to separate. For most children, separation means major changes to family life and often losing a parent. The long-term impacts of divorce are now widely recognised with increasing chances of problems at school, criminal behaviour, problems in their own relationships and mental illness.This guide will provide you with clear advice and guidance on how to minimise the impact of your relationship breakdown on your children. Including: an explanation of the age-specific issues that children face when they find out their family is breaking up; professional comment, stories and quotes from children; and checklists and case studies. Acknowledging the personal difficulties faced by the adult who has made the decision to leave, as well as the adult who feels they are being abandoned, this sensitive, accessible guide is a must for all parents going through divorce or separation who are concerned for their children.
How to Have a Healthy Divorce
"How to Have a Healthy Divorce" will help you to embrace the reality of the situation, gain more understanding of what went wrong and help you handle the rollercoaster of emotions involved.
Loving Yourself, Loving Another: The Importance of Self-esteem for Successful Relationships (Relate Guides)
This text reveals how a lack of self-esteem can profoundly affect an individual's close relationships. Comprising exercises, advice, and self-awareness puzzles, this guide is designed to help the reader improve their emotional well-being.
Moving On – Breaking up without breaking down (Relate guide)
One in three marriages ends in divorce. Cohabitation, marriage, divorce and re-marriage are becoming a normal part of the pattern of everyday life. However, the effects of such a pattern on the adults and children involved can be extremely detrimental if handled badly. In the Relate Guide to Moving On, Suzie Hayman draws on her many years experience as a Relate counsellor and agony aunt and provides information, advice and practical strategies to help you cope, as positively as possible, with the stress of breaking up with your partner. You will learn how to manage negative feelings, help your children through the difficult process, communicate with your partner and children throughout, cope with shared parenting responsibilities and sort out financial issues. Sympathetic, sound and full of positive, practical advice, this is an invaluable guide for all those facing the breakdown of their relationship.
Relate Guide to Finding Love
Why are you looking for love right now? What kind of relationship do you want? How will you know when you've found 'The One'? "The Relate Guide to Finding Love" will answer all these questions, and more.
Sex in Loving Relationships (Relate guide)
Turn a disappointing sex life into one that is enjoyable and fulfilling, and turn a satisfying sex life into an even better sex life. This book guides you through practical tasks, quizzes and talking points to help discover the sexual person you are and your likes and dislikes in bed.
Starting Again – How to learn from the past for a better future (Relate guide)
A guide to looking to a positive future after the grief of a failed relationship. Through self-assessment questionnaires, tasks and discussion points, the author helps the reader to reach a greater understanding of him- or herself and to build a new social life.
Staying Together – From crisis to deeper commitment (Relate guide)
This guide offers advice on how to learn to come to terms with a failing relationship, assess whether it is worth saving, and how to overcome relationship difficulties.
Step Families – Living successfully with other people’s children (Relate guide)
According to statistics, one in three people in the UK today is likely to be involved in a step-family at some point in their life. In Step-Families, Suzie Hayman looks at the problems that may arise as a result of this life-change and offers strategies for coping with them. It is common for a 'new' parent to suffer from feelings of isolation, guilt and anxiety while the established parent is concerned with balancing his or her needs with those of their partner, their children and possibly step-children. How do you also manage a sexual relationship if you are a single parent? Or accept the on-going role of the partner's 'ex' and the involvement of grandparents? Suzie Hayman uses personal stories to suggest ways in which you can come to terms with feelings, resolve problems and anticipate trouble before it starts. She takes a candid look at family politics - from an adult's point of view as well as a child's - and also addresses the relationship issues which arise if you and your partner decide to have children of your own.
Stop Arguing: Start Talking – The 10 point plan for couples in conflict (Relate guide)
Aims to help couples break free of old patterns of behaviour and avoid using words as weapons when the going gets tough. Encourages upfront discussion rather than resorting to nagging, and to bring discussion rather than confrontation back into your relationship.