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What is Relationship Counselling?
Relationship counselling helps you to make the most of your relationships, past, present or future. Relate can help you even if you are not currently in a relationship. Many people believe that Relate is only here to help with the major crises in people’s relationships. We are the first source of help when people face divorce or separation; affairs or major conflict. But we are also here for the worries that might seem trivial or minor. Even if things are going perfectly for you, we can help keep things that way. We can help you to find the support that is best for you and at a time to fit in with your life.
What can I expect from Relationship Counselling?
Relate counsellors provide a caring and supportive environment to help you find a way through any difficulties you may be facing.
Once you have made an appointment with your local Relate Centre you will be seen by a trained professional who will ask some questions about you and your partner, your relationship and what you hope to get out of your contact with Relate. At this stage you will also talk about the best times for your sessions, and you will discuss the cost of counselling. For more information on cost, click here
In some parts of the country relationship counselling is provided by individuals who are Relate trained and work from their own premises rather than a Relate Centre.
You can also receive relationship counselling via telephone by yourself or with your partner, even if you are dialling in from different locations. Telephone counselling can offer great flexibility.
Relate online counselling is another service that we offer. You –and your partner –can get help over emails which are delivered to a secure inbox . This support is popular with people who have difficulty talking about their problems and may find it easier to write about them, or who find it difficult to get to a Relate Centre for whatever reason.
How will Relationship Counselling help me?
It really depends what you want to get out of the counselling, but it is rare that you will leave Relate without feeling a positive change. For some people we transform their relationships and their lives; for others we help them solve a specific problem and move forward with more confidence and less anxiety.
The sorting out separation web app, from Help and Support for Separated Families, offers impartial help and support to anyone after separation.
Hear from one of our counsellors
“My clients are genuinely surprised when we start working together – they think that I am going to tell them what to do, but it’s not like that. They also come in feeling nervous and apprehensive but once we have met a few times, they even start to enjoy it. At the end of the day, it’s a brave move to come to Relate, but for almost everyone, it’s one of the best moves they have made.”
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- BBC Health
- British Association for Sexual and Relationship Therapy
- Family Doctor books
- Money Advice Service
- National Autistic Society
- One Plus One
- Relationships Scotland
- Sorting out separation web app
- StepChange Debt Charity
- UK Council for Psychotherapists
- Women’s Aid
- WPF Counselling & Psychotherapy
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