Ray and Clare
Sex therapy
Ray and Clare had always had a good sex life until Ray suddenly began to experience impotence. Instead of facing up to the problem, Ray looked for ways to avoid getting intimate with Clare. This left her feeling hurt and rejected.
Ray and Clare had always had a good sex life until Ray suddenly began to experience impotence. Instead of facing up to the problem, Ray looked for ways to avoid getting intimate with Clare. This left her feeling hurt and rejected.
Soon their sexual problems began affecting their everyday lives and they turned to Relate. In the counselling sessions Ray was able to talk about his feelings of frustration and failure at being unable to satisfy Clare. Clare, in turn, explained how Ray's rejection had left her feeling unattractive and unloved.
Their therapist suggested that instead of trying full intercourse, which was putting Ray under pressure to perform, they should look at other ways of being intimate. She recommended that they try a series of simple exercises in their own home. The exercises, like giving each other a massage, enabled them to be intimate without any pressure.
After a just a few sessions, the couple expressed a sense of closeness and intimacy that they had never had before, even prior to Ray's impotence. As their sexual confidence grew, Ray's problem disappeared and they were able to regain a full and fulfilling sex life.
