It doesn't matter if you're married, living together, single, gay or straight - we're here to help you.

Lots of people have an idea of what relationship counselling is and think that you only need counselling when things get really bad. But we're here whenever you need us, no matter what situation you face in your relationship. Even if your problems seem trivial, we can help.

What is Relationship Counselling?

Our counsellors provide a caring and supportive environment to help you find a way through any difficulties you may be facing in your relationship. Watch the video below, in which Relate counsellor Graham explains what Relationship Counselling is for.

What can I expect in Relationship Counselling?

Counselling can take place in a number of ways at a time to fit in with your life. Face-to-face counselling is available at our Centres all around the UK, but we also offer counselling services via telephone, email and online.

Once you've made an appointment with your local Centre you will be seen by a trained counsellor who will ask some questions about you and your partner, your relationship and what you hope to get out of counselling. At this stage you will also talk about the best times for your sessions, and you will discuss the cost of counselling.

You might decide to come to counselling with your partner or alone. Or you might have a combination of solo and couple sessions.

However you experience relationship counselling, you can feel reassured that it's confidential and non-judgemental.

How can Relationship Counselling help me?

It really depends what you want to get out of it, but it's rare that you will leave Relate without feeling a positive change. 

For some people, we transform their relationships and their lives; for others we help them solve a specific problem and move forward with more confidence and less anxiety.

Each session usually lasts 45 minutes to an hour, and your counsellor will ask you questions so that you can talk about what's going on and how you feel. They may offer you advice or ideas to try at home. 

If you don't like to talk a lot then they might try different things like drawing or mapping out your thoughts. It all depends on what's right for you.

Even if things don't change, counselling may help you to see things in a different way or make the decision that's right for you to move forward. Just talking to someone who isn't involved in the relationship can help you.

People are genuinely surprised when we start working together - they think that I'm going to tell them what to do, but it's not like that. They also come in feeling nervous and apprehensive but once we have met a few times, they start to enjoy it. It's a brave move to come to counselling, but for almost everyone, it's one of the best moves they've made.

- Relationship Counsellor

Book an appointment

To find out more about Relationship Counselling, and to arrange an appointment:

  • Book a counselling session at your local Relate Centre.
  • Try a free Live Chat session with a trained Relate Counsellor.
  • Talk to us about your concerns or questions on 0300 100 1234.