Families Un-locked

A new survey of Relate practitioners has asked a series of questions about the issues their clients have presented with since the UK went into lockdown in March 2020. Overall, the practitioners’ responses indicate that, over the past six months, clients brought into counselling more communication, mental health and parenting issues, than before lockdown.

The responses from 68 Relate practitioners who have continued to provide relationship support via phone, webcam and Live Chat during this time*, indicate that among the key presenting issues were:

Conflict: As many as 79% of counsellors reported a rise in clients concerned about arguments. Linked to this, disagreements about managing responsibilities at home (60%) and parenting were on the rise (62%) along with communication as a whole (62%).

Domestic abuse: Almost half (49%) of respondents, reported an increase in clients where emotional abuse was an issue. The number of practitioners who reported an increase in physical abuse (34%), whilst lower, is still of concern.  These findings mirror recent reports about a 25% increase in calls to Refuge’s Domestic Abuse Helpline during the pandemic.

Mental health: Importantly, 89% of counsellors reported that clients’ existing mental health issues appeared to have been exacerbated by the pandemic; and 68% of counsellors said that their clients presented with ‘new’ mental health issues, which probably emerged as a result of the pandemic.

Overall, 88% of practitioners reported an increase in clients seeking support for anxiety, 79% for depression and 78% for loneliness and isolation. These echo findings from research conducted by The Mental Health Foundation.

It therefore appears that the pandemic is not only aggravating existing mental health issues but also contributing to newly emerged ones, such as anxiety, depression and loneliness in people who may not have experienced mental health issues prior to the pandemic.  

Of particular relevance to relationships and mental health, more than half (57%) of responding practitioners reported an increase in clients with issues related to a partner’s mental health. Moreover, it is not just partners that the clients were worried about - 71% of Relate practitioners have seen an increase in clients who were concerned about the loneliness of a family member, and just under half (49%) have seen an increase in clients who were concerned about the mental health of a teen (13-18 years).

Parenting and education: Half of Relate practitioners have seen an increase in people concerned about the behaviour of their teenagers and 41% have seen an increase in those worried about the behaviour of their younger children (up to 12 years).  Perhaps unsurprising in the context of school closures and home schooling, 69% of practitioners report seeing an increase in issues relating to children’s education. In turn, these concerns may have been   contributing to the increase in arguments, with 62% reporting an increase in disagreements about parenting.