Do you and your partner agree on what counts as cheating?

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Whether you and your partner agree on what counts as cheating might sound like a simple topic, but it can be deceptively tricky — and cause real issues if not properly addressed.

Different people often have different ideas on what counts as being ‘unfaithful’. One person might consider it a form of cheating for their partner to even think about someone else in a certain way, whereas someone else might consider their partner kissing someone to be hurtful, but not an unforgivable offence.

Sometimes, it’s worth figuring out with your partner whether your ideas on what is and isn’t cheating are the same. While it can be easy to assume you’re on the same page, sometimes it’s better to be open and talk things over so you can avoid the potential for any misunderstandings further down the line.

If you aren’t sure whether this could be a potential area for conflict in your relationship, give our quiz a go. The questions will help you consider whether you and your partner’s boundaries around cheating are the same — or whether you need to address things. 

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