It’s very frustrating because it looks like the solution should be simple – he tells his daughter to move out and you move in. Unfortunately, it seems that your partner doesn’t share this view otherwise he’d have done already it. So why might that be? As I’ve said, bereavement can throw people together in a way that becomes difficult to untangle. I’m sure your partner must have felt a huge responsibility to ‘be there’ for his daughter when she lost her mum as well as having to manage his own feelings of loss. I’m wondering if he may still feel responsible for his daughter, particularly if as time has gone on, she has found it difficult to move on from what happened when she was ten. I suspect he now feels stuck between two women who are effectively competing for his love and attention and of course, as is so often the case, does nothing so he doesn’t have to choose and then feel guilty either way.