Where they started
Gill and Simon had been married for 30 years and had two daughters, Jane and Kate. Whilst Simon had been the main breadwinner, working in banking, Gill had devoted herself to bringing their daughters up. From the outside, it seemed as though Gill and Simon had everything.
The first blow came when eldest daughter, Kate moved out. Gill clung to the fact that her youngest was still in the nest, but it wasn't long until it was Jane's turn to leave for university.
Gill and Simon both felt her loss deeply.
Simon tried to stay focused on his work, choosing to spend more and more time at the office to avoid the emptiness at home. He missed Jane a lot - they had similar interests, a similar sense of humour, and from when she was young they'd had a special father-daughter bond.
Simon admitted that he feared that all he and Gill had in common these days were their daughters, and now with Jane moving on he just felt a big void. He was also worried about retiring and how they would cope being at home all day with nothing to talk about.
Gill and Simon made the brave devision to fight for their marriage and made an appointment to see a Relate Counsellor. Gill wasn't entirely convinced that it would help them.
The counselling helped Gill and Simon realise they had put all their loving energy into their children, but in the process had allowed their relationship to stagnate. Gill admitted that she often thought about her ex whilst Simon recognised that he was anxious about being honest with Gill for fear of losing her.
Where they are now
Over a period of several months and with both parties putting all their effort into the Plan, Simon and Gill began to see improvements in their relationship.