Feeling excluded is one of life’s most painful experiences. Sometimes, when we’ve been hurt, quite understandably, we do everything we can to avoid it happening ever again. It’s a completely natural response and people do it to greater or lesser extents all the time. So, I’m wondering if just maybe you sometimes veer between taking onboard every critical or dismissive comment or action and adapting yourself to other’ people’s ideas of how you should be? And then, when that feels too painful, do you perhaps withdraw and seem unavailable or disinterested so that other’s don’t engage with you? The logic here is that if you don’t engage, you can’t get hurt - but of course, that’s not the what happens and you end up feeling more rejected and marginalised than ever.